sunnuntai 26. helmikuuta 2023

Strengths and Weaknesses part 3. Weaknesses

Weaknesses are the opposite of strengths on a mental level. They are not necessarily things you are bad at. You may be good, but your weaknesses are mental. You don't expect something or get satisfaction from doing it. After doing it, you feel tired and indifferent, and you don't look forward to doing it with pleasure, but try to avoid it. You can try to improve your weaknesses, but they are also your repetitive thought patterns, so you have to reprogram your brain and it's hard. One of my weaknesses is meeting half-acquaintances. I try to avoid them until the end. I'd rather walk away from another person than go towards them. The mere thought of this event makes me anxious. Dealing with weaknesses is challenging. There are ways to avoid and reduce their role. The first five that come to mind are:

  1. Do not do it

  2. Develop yourself in it

  3. Partner up with someone

  4. Develop a support system

  5. Change your weakness into strength

As I already mentioned, I use the first method to avoid encounters with half-acquaintances. I spend more time avoiding them than I would spend on the encounters themselves. This is not reasonable, but I have to admit that I don't always act rationally. I try to strive for it, but weaknesses are often unconscious behaviors. You can't avoid all things. Then develop your weakness. This requires greater mental effort. That's why investing time in this doesn't make sense if you don't have to. This wastes resources from your more useful activities.

You often need other people to overcome a weakness. There are many people in your close circle whose strengths are your weaknesses. At workplaces, it is worth investing in forming such partnerships. You can help those close to you with your strengths if they are their weaknesses. Developing a support system takes time. You can use tools to develop the system. Automate your actions if you lack the desire for something. If you want to save money regularly, set up a continuous direct account transfer for saving. Sometimes you may have a weakness that you can hide with your strengths. You can get rid of the tension by imagining that you are somewhere else. A stand up comedian can create a sketch character by exaggerating his weaknesses. He thinks about the role on stage, imagining that he is just acting.

If you cannot avoid or work around your weaknesses, you must improve them to tolerable levels. You can't let them ruin your whole life. Get over yourself and improve them. Your journey may be painful, but your weaknesses may produce the greatest waste in life. You can achieve great results with smaller effort. The advantages and disadvantages of strengths and weaknesses vary from person to person. You have to work things out yourself. Remember that by changing a few critical things, you can achieve big results, whether they are about strengths or weaknesses.

maanantai 20. helmikuuta 2023

Strengths and Weaknesses part 2 Strengths

 Your strengths are combinations of your knowledge, skills and talents. You need them all to bring out the best in you. Of these three, the most important part and the one that clearly sets you apart from the rest is talent, i.e. repetitive thinking patterns. They are your unique talents. You are different because the impulses of your brain are brought in different ways. Acquiring knowledge and skills are essential, but they can also be acquired by others. It is impossible to copy your personal filter. You are different from others, so find your own strengths. They have common features.

I use four different parts in the book. The last three are more or less psychic similarities and success tells about how well the strengths come out:

  1. Success

  2. Instinct

  3. Growth

  4. Need

Success is the most obvious feature. Success tells you that you have some ability. There is still a long way to go from ability to strength. I can drop anything and catch any item myself before it hits the ground better than most people. It is difficult for me to refine this ability into a strength. If you know how I can do this, please tell me. The mere ability to do something and succeed in it is not enough if certain psychological criteria are not met.

Utilizing strengths based on instinct is more common than conscious action. This says a lot about the uniqueness of the strengths. You act strongly on your instincts. It is a condition of your existence. Instincts make you volunteer for things you're good at.

Growth means the ability to learn things very quickly and to refine one's ability to do things quickly. Abilities are things that seem easy to you. They do not require your special concentration but feel natural. You can lose track of time during them. This means the so-called flow state. In this case, you will be happy and you will accomplish a lot without realizing it. Growth takes place by utilizing strengths.

A need means how you feel a moment after an action. You are e.g. satisfied, happy and you feel that you have reached a peaceful state of being. Strive for the same state over and over again. You feel mentally strong even though you are physically exhausted. Your need to do something was stronger as a child. Then, you mostly try to do things that feel good. As an adult, you will have many mental obstacles that reduce the need. Strengths are the things you do that make you feel strong, and your weaknesses are the things that make you feel weak. You can be good at something, but still feel mentally drained. This is a sign of your weakness. Use your strengths because they work with less effort. Utilizing them gives you an edge over those who don't.

lauantai 11. helmikuuta 2023

Strengths and weaknesses part 1. Knowledge, skill, and talent

 You have strengths and weaknesses. Their meaning for you is personal. You might focus on doing things through your strengths, while others focus on improving their weaknesses. For some reason, most of us believe that developing our weaknesses is more important than our strengths. You can get the performance of a Skoda by successfully tuning your truck, but you should focus on tuning your Ferrari. The latter is a wiser option, because in today's world, you cannot do without your strengths.

Knowledge, skill and talent

You can learn the first two. Talents are natural abilities that you cannot learn. You can refine them. Your talents refer to your natural and repetitive thinking patterns and cannot be taught. A talented accountant has e.g. the noble skill of being , i.e. he wants to get all the numbers right. Due to different levels of talent, students starting from the same starting point produce different results. The top level can only be reached if the talent coincides with what one does. This does not mean that learning is not useful for the gifted. Of the strengths, talent forms the essential parts. Knowledge and skills can be acquired, but unique thinking patterns cannot be acquired.

Knowledge means things you are aware of. You can gather information yourself and it can be taught to you. Information can be divided into two parts: facts and information based on experience. You have read the facts and your knowledge based on experiences are the things you have learned along the way. Facts can and should be taught. Knowledge based on experiences is learned by thinking about what was done and how the action has affected either you or others or by following the actions of others. A skill is how you do something. The best way to learn a skill is to break it down into pieces and put them together. The best way to learn is to practice by doing it consciously. Each skill and its parts should be learned in the right way at the right time in the right order.

Talent can be divided into three different categories. Motivational talent explains why you do something. It tells you the reason why you do what you do. Thinking talent tells you how you think, i.e. how you consider options or how you draw conclusions. The unifying talent tells you who you trust, who you work with and who you reject. Talent is made up of the connections in the brain that control its activity. Thinking patterns are different from others because all brains have billions of connections that work in different ways. They are different for everyone. Connections are mostly formed during the first three years of life, and by sixteen years, half of your connections are dead. Connections form mental networks that filter the information the brain receives. The network decides how to react to certain situations.

If you don't know about your talents, find them by following your natural reactions. They are reactions you cannot learn. They are at their best in stressful situations. In addition to natural reactions, you can think about things that you constantly miss. In addition, you can think about things that give you satisfaction and things you learn quickly. The things you were interested in as a child are probably the ones you are talented at. You have felt an attraction to them even at an older age. You'll learn faster the skills you're good at. Embracing them comes more naturally to you than to others. Satisfaction is also a sign of your talent, because those things have the strongest connections in your brain. Think about the things that make you happiest. It is one of the best tips for finding talent.

Anders Ericsson made a study that proved that talent alone is not enough for success. The end result was that getting to the top requires an average of 10,000 hours of focused and purposeful training. The average does not tell about individuals. In reality, the number of hours varied from a few thousand to twenty thousand. The need for hours depends largely on talent. When the number of hours in question is so large, it is clear that without talent, few people can cope with that amount of work. Since the amount of talent tells about repeated thought patterns, such an amount of hours is almost impossible to perform without talent. The interest in doing something ends quickly without the satisfaction of doing it, which is one of the hallmarks of talent.